Court dissolves 13-year marriage over stubbornness, sexual starvation in Ibadan

A Grade A Customary Court in Mapo, Ibadan, has officially dissolved a 13-year-old marriage between Durojaye Akingbade and his estranged wife, Olabisi, following claims of stubbornness and sexual starvation.

Presiding over the case, Court President Mrs. S.M. Akintayo ruled that the court could not compel Akingbade to remain in a union he no longer wished to continue.

According to the petitioner, the breakdown in intimacy and repeated confrontations had made the marriage unbearable.

The court granted an order restraining the respondent from harassing, threatening, disturbing and interfering in the private life of the petitioner henceforth.

Akingbade, a teacher, had, in his earlier testimony, stated that his wife had stopped taking instructions from him despite the fact that he had not neglected any of his own obligations.

He further stated that since Olabisi moved in with him as a wife, it had been one day, one trouble in his home.

“It got to a point when Olabisi stopped cooking for me and the children, such that the three children relied on food gotten from our relatives.

“Worst still, she has been denying me sexual intercourse and has not allowed me my conjugal right for the past three years.

“Before then, I forced my way through because she did whatever pleased her.

“My lord, Olabisi has refused to pack out of my house and so, I disconnected the electrical supply to her apartment,” Akingbade said.

In her response, Olabisi, who also earned her livelihood as a teacher, refuted most of the claims by her husband.

Olabisi described Akingbade as a pathological liar and a womaniser, who usually returned home to practise whatever his friends told him to do.

“Akingbade’s friends usually influenced him that they had sex anytime they wished and anywhere.

“In fact, I decided to excuse myself from further sexual activities with him when he complained that he contracted sexual disease through me.

“Even his younger brother died of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS).

“Furthermore, Akingbade married three wives between 2020 and 2024 without informing me,” she told the court.

Olabisi further stated that Akingbade’s mother had all along been his best friend in terms of closeness.